- 25 years experience
- English and Spanish
- LCSW in New York
About Toby
Toby Faye Mailman is a licensed clinical social worker who helps people facing stress, anxiety, trauma, depression, grief, and parenting strain. She also supports people dealing with relationship difficulties, anger, career shifts, compassion fatigue, and coping with life changes, including coping with natural or human-caused disaster. Her practice is based in New York and she carries 25 years of clinical experience.
She aims to build a trusting relationship first, believing trust makes therapy useful. Sessions focus on discovering the strengths a person already has and developing new skills to solve problems. Toby uses clear, down-to-earth language and a coaching stance to help clients find answers that fit their lives.
Her work draws on several approaches. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy helps people shift unhelpful thoughts and behaviors. Attachment-based and emotionally-focused ideas guide work on close relationships and emotional patterns. Dialectical Behavior Therapy offers practical tools for emotional regulation and distress tolerance.
Toby has worked with people from varied cultural backgrounds and considers cultural norms in planning care. She recommends regularly scheduled weekly or bi-weekly sessions to make steady progress and asks clients to give notice when they need to reschedule.
She speaks English and Spanish and practices as an LCSW, which stands for Licensed Clinical Social Worker. To begin, a prospective client can use the Start Therapy process and complete a short matching questionnaire before scheduling based on availability.
How these approaches shape online work
Attachment-based work focuses on how early and current relationships affect feelings and reactions. It helps people understand patterns in close relationships and learn new ways to connect and respond.Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at the links between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It gives practical exercises to change unhelpful thinking and build new habits for anxiety, depression, and stress.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers clear tools for handling intense emotions and high-stress moments. It includes skills for emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and clearer communication.
Finding the right approach is usually a collaborative process. The therapist will review goals, preferences, and what has or hasn’t worked before, then recommend methods to try. Clients and the therapist adjust the plan as needed over time.
Many people appreciate online therapy because it can fit into busy schedules, reduce travel time, and make it easier to keep regular weekly or bi-weekly sessions. If you need specific session formats, confirm the available options before booking since the biography does not list formats. Online work can allow shorter check-ins, sessions during a lunch break, or less time spent commuting while still using the clinical approaches described above.
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Experience
25+ years
Credentials
New York
Languages
English, Spanish
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does she address?
Toby helps people with stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, depression, grief, relationship problems, parenting strain, anger, career transitions, compassion fatigue, and coping with life changes including coping with natural or human-caused disaster.
How would you describe her therapy style?
She takes a coaching style that focuses on strengths and skill building. The work is practical and conversational, aimed at finding solutions that fit a person's daily life.
What is her clinical background?
She has 25 years of experience working with individual adults and a history of attending to cultural differences in therapy.
What credentials and location are listed?
She is an LCSW, which stands for Licensed Clinical Social Worker, licensed in New York and practices in New York.
Which languages are available for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish.
What session formats are offered?
Please confirm current session options before booking, as session formats are not specified in the biography.
How does cost and billing work?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin the process?
Click the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule an appointment according to the therapist's availability.